cheerios......

jo .....

everyone have their bad days ... some longer than the others but as always time will heal all wounds. after much tawt, i decided against emailing you as i din want to repeat this to anyone else in the group. so take this as an open letter to you and let it be known to all of us. you may not know it, but we (jia, jean,renee,dean,i) seriously want to get you out of the 'misery' that you are going through.
i'm glad you finally took enough time and courage to spell out most of the facts if not all here. you know lah, repeated stories never bring about positive comments and speculation NEVER helps. you should know by now that keeping the truth under wraps aint going to make us clear about whats really happening to you, and in that case how is any positive advice going to come out of it. as much as we all want the best for you, you cannot mislead us / (me) time and time again. THis may sound really harsh, but we have been friends all these years, we only want to protect you from any unhappiness that anyone is causing you as much as we can. im not aunt agony or the love diva but I hope i am voicing out advice in general, anyone alse, pls correct me if i am wrong.

jo.....so the point of your whole life is choosing the one you love to marry or finding a man to marry to run away from it all. i cannot recall but i remember seeing somewhere that you just wanted to get away from living at home. you want to marry kim, but yet cannot bring yourself to swear away your life knowing that you cannot bring yourself to trust him again and again? mel is def out, coz in all ways he is one possesive freak. BIG NO NO for you knowing that you need space . and then comes along Tavis, who all of a sudden seem to be able to find time and energy to meet all your demands and cries for help. so you are confused, coz you dun truely love tavis as much as you would like to, yet find yourself relying more and more on him for comfort and companionship? he is almost the god sent, convenient substitute for the love you need.
you see, the best part of it all , if you settle for anyone else besides Kim and Mel, you can live away from home and yet stay amongst your frens and love ones in Sgp. So the moral of it all, forget about Kim and Mel, both of whom are not willing to risk it all and re settle for you, (so why should you?!). Keep Tavis in mind as he has not failed you yet. As cliche as it sounds, you cannot think with your heart anymore as it is wasting you away. you have to start thinking rationally and just for one moment , stop thinking of love and companionship. you have to get on with your life, look for a job meet more pp and start to hang out with real pp. seriously, you have the brightest future amongst us all, and yet it pains all of us to see you wasting it all away just because you are in search of the unreal. i may have analysed it all wrong, but please, i just want the best for you. we will not judge you for what you do as at the end of the day, we all just wanna hang out and hope for the best for everyone.give yourself a break, you win some you lose some. get a hold of yourself, hang out have fun, no use crying over lost love, toughen up and let nature takes its course. ms pretty joanne smart ting has it all to get through it......love ya.tam